Title I am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter by
Erika L. Sanchez
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Genre: Realistic Fiction
Justification:
I am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter is a National Book Award Finalist, the winner of the
Tomas Rivera Mexican American Children’s Book Award, Bank Street College Best
Children’s Book of the Year, Texas TAYHAS High school reading list, Virginia
Capitol Choices Award List, and a New York Times Bestseller (Penguin Random House, 2019) . This heavily awarded
book speaks to Mexicans, Hispanics, and others are not represented in books. It
also does a great job addressing suicide attempts and the importance of family,
forgiveness, and trust.
Evaluation of the book:
This story talks about the plight of being a second
generation American growing up with a first generation American. While the book
is laced with the overall plot of Olga dying and Julia is trying to find out
who she really is the main plot is what it is like growing up in a different culture.
Julia deals with a lot of the same concerns our students deal with. Some of the
issues include will her parents be deported, suicide, death, and depression. Julia
needs someone she can turn too but her mom cannot overcome her own grief enough
to reach her daughter. It is not until Julia gets sent to Mexico that she understands
the trials her parents have faced and why she is raised the way she is. The plot
addresses several major issues and helps the reader to understand that Julia is
just not entitled, and her mom does not have the tools needed to be the best
parent. The two plots intertwine well with each other telling an important
story about acceptance and trying to move on and heal.
The tone of the book is full and anger and sadness. Julia
is dealing with depression because she lost her sister. She is going through
puberty and feels guilty for her sister’s death. Julia and her parents seem at
odds through the whole book. Julia is told she cannot enter her sisters’ room
to mourn for her and spends her life with no privacy and grounded. It is not
until after Julia attempts suicide and is found by her father that the tone
changes. Julia begins to heal. She goes to therapy. Goes to Mexico and learns
why her mom is the way she is. She also learns that Olga is not perfect and was
about to have a baby. This realization allows her to grow and move on. She gets
into College and forges her own path with a new understanding of her parents
struggles. She learns to open herself up and learn about others struggles and
problems. Julia grows up and becomes more accepting. The tone becomes one of
sorrow to one of growth then this occurs.
Sanchez uses two languages in the book. She does not
limit her words to just English but uses precise vocabulary. The mixture of both
languages helps to get the point of the story across. Ama uses her native
langue and Mexican ideals while Julia grows up in an American culture. Olga follows
the traditional Mexican mentality why Julia rebels and focuses on getting out
and working on her education. As the characters are mentioned the use of Spanish
increases or decreases. Julia and her mom even pretend to not speak English while
cleaning on of the houses. This precise language helps the reader to understand
that background and mindset of each character.
Response:
(a) Growing up in El Paso there were
many first- and second-generation families. Parties were large affairs where
the whole community would attend. Quinceneras were a rite of passage and sweet
sixteens did not exist. For many women they were overprotected. They could not
leave home like their male counterparts. Makeup could not be worn till their
fifteenth birthday. They were taught how to care for a family, to have a decent
job but that family always came first. I watched as these girls longed to
become Americanized. To go away to college and not have to stay at home. This
is an issue that many immigrants face. First generation families have faced a
lot of trauma and trials to do what is best for their families. Their children
do not understand what it took and what was lost. It is hard to balance both cultures
and grow. This story is something that affects thousands of women as their
families try to protect them from the harsh realities they faced.
(b) This book was an extreme example.
It broke my heart reading how the family was all suffering along. I did not
agree with Ama when she banned Julia from Olga’s room. Julia lost her sister
just as Ama lost her daughter. The punishments were also too intense. They just
pushed a greater divide and separated the family more. Julia felt like she had
to rebel because she was not heard or seen. She needed her Apa and Ama to
support her instead of blaming her for her sister’s death. I choose to parent
in a less extreme way because I want my daughter to come to me if she needs me.
I want there to be trust and understanding but not friendship. It is important
to listen to both sides so that people can heal.
(g) The text was slow at first. It
picked up the pace at the middle. I loved how it addressed several issues that
teens face daily. However, I felt that the subplot with Olga was forced. It did
not add a significant amount to the story and was not flushed out well. The
main story with the relationship of Julia and her mom was the true story. The
elements of going back to Mexico were well done and needed. This book is a
great book to have in the library. It would benefit many students and even
though it is slow at first it does send the message of hope and getting help.
Conclusion:
This award-winning book tells the
story of dealing with grief, regret, and anger. The plot, tone, and precise vocabulary
help tell a story of a girl trying to fit in two different worlds, while mourning
her sister. It also tells the story of learning to live after tragedy. Sanchez
does a great job of showing the struggles and the importance of branching out
and learning to accept and fix the things that tear us apart.
Citation:
Penguin
Random House. (2019). I am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter. Retrieved
from Penguin Random House: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/545723/i-am-not-your-perfect-mexican-daughter-by-erika-l-sanchez/
Sanchez, E.
L. (2017). I am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter. New York: Ember.
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University of Texas at El Paso. (n.d.). How to Write a Reaction Paper or
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